This is 'THE MANUAL': A list of hints and tips to increase the chances of the average male in attracting and seducing the fairer sex.

THE MANUAL

Undertand this if you get nothing else out of this tract; WOMEN ARE NOT LIKE MEN.

We are direct in matters of the heart, they are subtle.

We use mental logic in making our mating decisions, they use emotional logic.

We are driven by the need to have sex with as many different women as possible.

They are driven by the need to find the most successful, robust, intelligent and protective male to have children with, and to bind that male to them.

If however they find a 'better prospect' and it's a safe bet, that man will be dumped. If she already has children by a man, she will stick with him, as a stepfather will not be so protective of her children.

If she can persuade the 'better prospect' to look after her kids, she'll jump ship.

Hence you will hear women bewail the fact the 'there are no nice men around', but they still go out with cads.

Men contantly bewail that women are stupid, or illogical, but deep down a rascal or a bully-boy is a better genetic prospect than a wimpy 'nice guy'.

Let me refine this; Your job is to be cock-of-the-walk in public, Mr. Take-Charge-In-A-Crisis, but IN PRIVATE with her you show your softer side.

She's looking for a combination of a patrician (father-figure) type, a knight in shining armour, a decent, romantic, exciting fellow who's in charge of his own destiny...

BUT she also seeks a rascal, a desperado, a hint of cruelty and refined aggression.

BUT she needs to know you've a soft centre, for her and the kids she'll have with you (!)...

BUT she doesn't want you to let her have too much of her own way, either.

BUT she doesn't want a wimp who'll embarass her in public and let her down.

Tricky, isn't it?

You must contradict her forcefully or gently as the occasion calls for it, especially if you believe you are in the right.

Women like a good argument. Stand up to her, but don't be a brute. She's counting on you. She'll contantly test you, even if she doesn't realise it.

Forget this equality lark. Even if the woman ends up being the sole breadwinner and real boss of the household you need to maintain the illusion(?) that you'll be her rock in a crisis.

Women generally despise weakness in men, unless you rank high on the 'sensitive-artist-genius-wounded-poet' scale, and bring out their mothering instinct. It would also help if you are passably handsome. Ugly wounded poets need not apply! They're looking for:

The father they never had,
The elder brother they wanted to look up to,
The son they long to mother,
A male double of themselves,
Or if they're well-adjusted, just a lover and a husband.

Check out the magazines and books they read, the films they watch. Women long for romance and glamour.

Absorb the lessons contained therein. Don't go over the top, but you'll have to meet her half-way. Put aside your car magazines, your obsessive hobbies, your team sports and your bar buddies. IT'S GOOD that you have such interests. It shows you're a masculine man, but they're not what SHE'S interested in.

Here's another dilemma. Women ultimately want to tie down the rebel, the macho man bursting with testosterone, but when they do domesticate him, they complain he's gone to seed, and mock him. In their turn they put on weight and get frumpish.

They've got their man, there's no need to make an effort any more. Your course of action is to play along with this game-plan, but frustrate it just enough to keep her on her toes, and be aware when it is creeping up on you.

FOR GOD'S SAKE DON'T GET INTO A LONG-TERM RELATIONSHIP WITH A WOMAN JUST BECAUSE YOU FEEL GUILTY,
BECAUSE YOU FEEL YOU SHOULD,
BECAUSE SHE PESTERS YOU TO DO SO,
BECAUSE YOU LACK THE CONFIDENCE TO AIM HIGHER,
OR BECAUSE YOU'RE AFRAID TO DUMP HER IN CASE YOU WON'T GET ANOTHER.

You'll have cause to repent so-doing, for the rest of your life.

Have a good look into the eyes of your married buddies, their appearance, look at their wives, their children, their houses. Some have profited by getting married, and some are jaded and worn out, and doomed. Why? Read on and learn.

The only reason for staying in a relationship that isn't working is that a man with a girlfriend has a much better chance of finding a replacement, than a single man.

Why? Because you're not sending out signals that you're sex-crazed and desperate. Also, it's a challenge for a woman to 'steal' you from one of her 'sisters'. And, from her point of view, you've shown you're capable of sustaining a relationship.

Now then, how do you get the girl without the misery?

THE BASICS - WHAT WOMEN LIKE

Physical attraction: Suprisingly,  the weightlifter's physique is less attractive to women than a man with a lean, well-toned body.   The ideal man may even have slightly feminine characteristics, such as long eyelashes, or long hair. He should be fit and healthy.  

This is why women prefer pop idols to Mr. Universe.  Those guys who spending years pumping iron in the gym are wasting their time, if it's women they want to please.  A swimmer's physique would suit them better.

Women prefer men to be taller than themselves. However, personal qualities are more important ultimately.

It also tends to be the case that women tend to date men at least two years older than themselves. Why? Because men of their own age are less emotionally mature, and have only the same experience of the world.

Conversely, if YOU want to find your ideal mate, look to slightly younger women.

Personality: Men should be ambitious. They should have demonstrable leadership qualities; the strength and willingness to take command, to exude a patrician air.

Earning potential - the ability to buy security for a family - is also rated very highly.

Age: A woman can find happiness with a man of any age, unlike men, who tend to be attracted to younger women.

If you don't have these qualities, fake them. Most social interaction is pure 'acting' anyway. Act the great man, and you become one, but DON'T put on a charade you can't easily carry off. If you say you have a Porche, and you don't, and you get caught out, you'll be looking for a stone to hide under...but if you buy a second-hand sports or classic car, or hire one for the duration, well now, you're in the game!

Romance: Champagne, moonlight, soft words eloquently spoken, and flowers are arousing to most women. Those who try to get on with women, and talk easily about their interests, are more successful with women, than less attentive types.

Social skills: A man should be gregarious, with a clique of jolly friends.   He should able to hold knowledgeable discussions on a wide variety of subjects. A man should be observant. He should notice when a woman has changed her appearance.  He should notice when she is unhappy.  When required he should not stay silent, but offer compliments or sympathy.

Most important: You must not embarrass your date in public. Women hate to be the centre of attention for the wrong reasons. If you're acting like a little boy or an obnoxious brute you're using up your credit every second that ticks by.